A friend of mine after reading the Rule Book blog made an interesting observation. She remarked “Those are the best rules to follow and I guess, if everyone follows them, life would be better for each and every one of us. However I notice that “To forgive” is not making its debut therein? The fact it did not constitute or make it to that list, makes me think that you don’t forgive people?”She made me smile. A very intelligent observation made and it maybe true and may not be as well. She did make me think, if I really forgive people or I simply just let go. Is forgiving and letting go one and the same thing? Maybe unconsciously they are nearly the same to me. Its not that I don’t forgive, I do but maybe my reactions are different depending on the situations I am in. Maybe I am not nearly as vocal about forgiveness as other people would.If there was a fight with a very close friend and she said something nasty or rude or something that I didn’t agree with, guess I would just let go – now wouldn’t that imply that I did forgive? Or would that just imply that I ignored and I just let it go?
2nd Situation: A relationship did not work, the way one would think it would. It ends. You definitely feel bitter about it and have questions in your mind relating if there was anything that you did wrong. Over a period of time, it starts fading away. The reason of the relationship ending is just time distancing two people. Time fades the color of Trust and belief. You definitely won’t forget it completely, but the pain starts fading away with time. Now, you are at a stage that if you meet that person again, you would be cordial and friendly and just won’t really feel anything. You are completely casual about it, however you haven’t forgotten that there was a relationship existent with this person which doesn’t exist anymore. Now, would you term your casual attitude as forgiveness or just letting go?
Would love to know what other people would think of this?