The most common sentence that is used when people are irritated or frustrated is “Are you in your senses” or “Do you have common sense”? Well, don’t we know that every human being has been gifted with senses that are as sharp as a Swiss knife?
For me, my senses go on red alert when I sense “Jealousy”, “Competitiveness”, “Hate”, “Dislike”, “Chauvinism”, “Ego” – as to me I recognize them to be plainly negative. It’s even more a red and strong alarm when I sense it in the people who claim to be my loved ones. While I am a firm believer that there always should be healthy competition, however they sometimes head to a complete disastrous turn if you sense it amongst those you believe are your own.
I am also a believer that you can control your feelings with what you think about the other person. Why are the feelings of jealousy, competitiveness, envy created in one in the first place? Being accepted and socially acknowledged is the biggest factor that I have noticed and seen across a wide range of people, another is when someone who is so talented is taking away the cake and the attention while some have just no reason at all.
What some folks really don’t realize is that talent is to be appreciated, whether if it’s within you or within others. As far as acceptance goes, if you accept who you are in the first place, trust others to accept you socially without any effort. The above leads to another baby being born named “insecurity”.
When you feel any of the above, trust the person close to you to sense it. Trust the person to sense it even more strongly if it’s against them.
So when people are sensing that you are feeling all of the above what happens? Maybe they tell you, they make it known to you through some form of indirect communication and unspoken words or worst – question their own self in anger as “Why are you feeling jealous or envious of all the people in the world? & “How can you feel this against them, considering they have been always been led to believe that you loved them?” This one is the biggest knife one can ever stab their own heart with, however it’s the most natural thing to happen.
My main concern and question is for those people who tend to have these feelings for their loved ones. Do they ever sit down and dwell deeper to understand why they are feeling the way they are for someone who is such a close part of their own heart. If they do, I am sure – the main answer lies within them. And mostly, the answer would like in the question “What do you THINK about the person you love”?
All your feelings are communicated through your thoughts. The fact that you have had a passing thought of negativity or bad about that person you would tend to feel the way you did. This was the easiest part; however the question still remains would you now change your thoughts and be conscious about the same for the person you love so as not to breed the feelings of “Jealousy”, “Competitiveness”, “Hate”, “Dislike”, “Chauvinism” or “Ego”?
Will you be able to control your thoughts? If not, then you have been loving and lying to your loved one in the same breath.