I can already sense Reema smiling again after reading another one on relationships from me, considering I was titled the “Relationship Blogger” by her, so I how can I let her down. Another one for you Reemz.
I feel lucky. I just simply feel lucky. I have had friends this year, who have been through the worst in the their life. A major reason has been relationships and very serious ones just not working out for them. The reason that I feel lucky, is not because it didn’t happen to me, I am lucky because I have such amazing friends.
As I write this post, I am chatting with another friend of mine who just broke the news of divorcing her three year marriage just two months back. I find it really strange as I had lost touch with her ages back and today I am hearing this from her the first day that I get in touch back with her. I am doing everything to ensure that she has the hope in her life and thank the almighty about having disguised blessings as she did not have kids from a man who was having extra marital affair not once but for four times while they were married. This one is for all you guys who have probably thought that your life have ended just because one of your most loved and cherished relationships did not work the way, you would have hoped for it to.
However, just now look around and see – you have probably “grown”. You have grown stronger mentally. You have grown to realize and read your own emotions. You have walked over water and miles at that. You probably thought your life was completely dependent on someone else, hasn’t it made you realize that your life is not dependent on anyone except you.What does that say about you? Doesn’t it say that you are amazing. Doesn’t it say, that you have someone watching over you to ensure that nothing ends the world for you. Doesn’t it speak volumes about your strength and drive to move on?
Yes, you would need your family and friends to stand by you and support you in your times of distress; but there is only so much they can do. The rest has to be done by you. People will surely hear your pain but they cannot heal you. You have to do it by yourself. And when you do heal, ensure that you are indebted to these people for their entire life; as to heal as well you will need help. A physical wound on your body heals on itself only after someone has applied a bandage on it. They are some family and friends that will stand by you irrespective of anything. Tell them your most heartfelt thank you’s and be there when they may need you. That’s what makes friends and family so invaluable; just so indispensable.
You probably carry the strength that you can give zillions of people out there, you may just need your support. You probably also have the shoulders to carry and help those who maybe in times of distress as you were. You are a living inspiration to so many others around. Instead of looking at your life and relationship as a failure wouldn’t it be well invested in helping those you may need you. A feeling of being there for someone is the most fulfilling. It is the most satisfying. Yes, some of them that you may help may even forget you once they have moved on; however you were the one with the most honest intentions. You healed a heart. I hope I healed at least one, if not personally, then hopefully through this post!